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Action Item: Read up on how to defend traditional marriage as one man, one woman, against proponents of same sex "marriage." Order copies of Dr. J's helpful, pocket-size booklet  77 Reasons to support man/woman marriage for yourself and everyone you know!

Talking Point: "If the love between adults were the only important factor, we would expect stepparents to be interchangeable with biological parents. But this is not generally the case." #22 from 77 Reasons to support man/woman marriage.

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November 4: UCSD Newman Center, 8p.m. "Mixed Messages: Finding Lifelong Love in a Hook-Up World"

November 12-13: Princeton University, Love and Fidelity Conference. Dr. J's talk: "Marriage without Adjectives: Explaining Natural Marriage"

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November 2, 2009 Volume 5 Issue 37
77 Reasons to support man/woman marriage

I realize it is Election Day, but I’m not going to talk about elections. As I have traveled around the country, I’ve become more and more convinced that people are eager for the Ruth Institute message.

I’ve addressed Christian business people in Phoenix; a Catholic women’s conference in Kalamazoo, Michigan; Catholic educators in Sacramento; TV and radio people in St. Louis; and think tank people and students in the Research Triangle of Raleigh-Durham-Chapel Hill, North Carolina. Everywhere I go, I hear gut-wrenching stories of people’s lives and families disrupted by the sexual revolution, separating sex and children from love and marriage. I hear from young people about the trauma of divorce, the sadness of losing contact with a step-sibling or the loss of not knowing their fathers. I hear from parents who are heart-broken that their children are involved in cohabitation situations or same sex relationships. They can see their child or grandchild sailing off the deep end, heading for trouble, but they are losing contact and even communication with them. No matter how the elections turn out, the cultural and educational battle for a humane marriage culture must continue. We want you to be part of our efforts.

At the same time, I see cause for inspiration and hope. At my talks at Duke and Chapel Hill, for instance, students asked in effect, what they could say to their classmates who are hooking up. One African American student said to me, “I was prepared to see people hooking up and stuff. But I wasn’t prepared for the fact that people keep doing it, even after they’ve done it and seen that it doesn’t really work.” These are the young people we aim to serve, with your help. Won’t you consider making a contribution today?

Sometimes our work inspires surprising reactions from adults. At one event, my host was a retired faculty member. Something I said in the course of my “Smart Sex” talk prompted him to raise his hand. Honestly, I can’t even recall exactly what he said, because I was so blown away by the power of the situation. With his wife by his side, he uttered just a few, potent sentences, about how sex helps sustain a marriage through the difficult times, and about how sometimes even happily married couples experience loneliness. How often do young people hear testimony about the beauty of married sex, from a couple speaking with the authority of a lifetime of experience? I know I never heard such a thing in college, and I would have really benefited from it.

This is the work that we at the Ruth Institute have the privilege of doing every day. You can be part of it. Please make your most generous gift today.

Get Your Game-Changing Tool for the Marriage Debate!

We have just created a game-changing tool to help our friends make the case for natural marriage. This piece, “77 Non-Religious Reasons to Support Man/Woman Marriage,” is hot off the presses! Each “Reason” is short enough that you can use it in a debate or discussion, or just to clarify your own thinking.

For instance, when someone says that marriage can’t really be about children because not all marriages have children, you can use Reason #10. “Look at marriage from the child’s point of view. Not every marriage produces children. But every child has parents.” Bigger than a brochure, smaller than a booklet, “77 Non-Religious Reasons” will easily fit in a ladies’ purse or a gentleman’s shirt pocket. You can keep a stash of them in your car or briefcase to give out in case of emergency. You’ll want to keep a copy beside your computer when you are writing in to comment on blogs, news stories and editorials.

Right now, we’re having a knock-down drag out discussion of kids having multiple parents over at the Ruth blog, inspired by an article in the Boston Globe. You can use Reason #62: “Same sex marriage opens the door to children having more than two legal parents, as has already happened in Canada.”

Best of all, this thing is cheap. It’s so cheap in fact that we can’t afford to sell them one at a time! We don’t want to get the credit card companies and the computer software involved in such a small transaction. If you want a single copy, send us a Self Addressed Stamped Envelope with a dollar bill, and we will send you “77 Non-Religious Reasons to Support Man/Woman Marriage” by return mail!

Here's the address: Ruth Institute 663 S. Rancho Santa Fe Road, Suite 222 San Marcos, CA 92078-3973

We feel sure you will want to give copies of these “77 Reasons” to your friends and family members, whether they are personally religious or not. You’ll want to share the “77 Non-Religious Reasons” with members of your church or synagogue. You’ll want to urge your pastor, priest or rabbi to order copies for the congregation or for religious education. You may even want to send copies to bone-headed editors, talk-show hosts or TV anchors who say things like, “same sex marriage is just a religious issue.”
So by all means, go to the Ruth store and place your order for multiple copies of “77 Non-Religious Reasons to Support Man/Woman Marriage.”


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