This book club requires a book purchase: 101 Tips for Marrying the Right Person.
Discussion Questions:
- How important is it to relax and be yourself around other young adults? Is it sometimes difficult when you’re trying to make a good impression?
- How important is it that your boy/girlfriend shares your faith and values? Do you think you can change or convert him or her? (Tip 9)
- Do you agree with the idea of being friends first? (Tip 10)
- Are group dates a good idea? (Tip 11) What ideas can you come up with for good group dates?
- Is chivalry dead? Ladies, do you enjoy or want to be treated like a lady? Gentlemen, do you enjoy or want to be the heroic knight, or is that too old fashioned? (Tip 12)
- Do you believe Tip 16 is true—that you won’t be able to see the other person clearly when you’re deep in a relationship? Can you commit to asking someone(s) their honest opinion and take their advice seriously? Or do you think no one will understand the relationship except the two of you?
- Tips 18-20—Do you know anyone like this? Have you ever done this?
- Briefly review tips 24-35—the “don’ts” of dating. Have you or anyone you know done any of these? Why do you think they do? How can these pitfalls be avoided?
Personal Reflection
- Am I ready to find my future spouse? Are there any issues I need to work on? Do I need spiritual advising or therapy to help me with baggage and past hurts?
- Am I still hung up on an old flame whom I need help getting over before I can move on?
- Am I looking and feeling my best? Are there internal areas I could improve to be better marriage material?
- What is my wants vs. needs list? (Tip 3)
- Is my prayer life on track? (Tips 6-8) Am I being impatient or am I open and trusting the will of God?
- Reflect on tip 22 if you’re a girl, and tip 23 if you’re a guy. What can you do to improve your physical appearance or that of your home to make you and it more appealing?
- Review tips 24-35 and ask yourself if you’re doing any of these. Are you ready to make a change and do what needs to be done? Are you strong enough to let the other person go if need be?
