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Post-Abortive Woman or Man

No woman ever regrets her abortion. Abortion solves all the problems it promised to solve. No man ever regrets being involved with an abortion.

ARE YOU A VICTIM OF THE SEXUAL REVOLUTION?

Dear Friend,

We have identified twelve categories of people who have been harmed by the Sexual Revolution. This questionnaire seeks to help Post-Abortive Women and Men. Use this checklist to see if you are a Victim of the Sexual Revolution.

Our goal here is not merely to identify Victims. The goal is to help the Victims become Survivors, and the Survivors to become Activists for positive change.

What really happens after abortion?

This section of the questionnaire is for women. Men, you may wish to read these questions with the woman in your life in mind.

  • Are you the mother of any aborted children?
  • Were you afraid of becoming a mother?
  • Did you think you were not ready or not worthy to be a mother?
  • Did you ever regret your abortion?
  • Did your reasons for your abortion become worn out and thin to you over time?
  • Were you surprised by feeling regret about your abortion?
  • Did anyone support you in carrying your baby to term?
  • Did you ever have night terrors in the months and years after your abortion?
  • Did you ever have “anniversary grief” around the time the baby would have been born, or on the anniversary of the abortion itself?
  • Did you ever consider suicide?
  • Did you ever cut yourself?
  • Have you ever had an eating disorder?
  • Have you ever been depressed or sad over your abortion?
  • Did a mental health professional ever tell you that your negative feelings could not possibly be related to having had an abortion?
  • Did you get pregnant again shortly after your abortion?
  • Did you hope or imagine that you would carry that baby to term?
  • Did you ever think you deserved to suffer from your abortion?
  • Did you ever think you were punishing yourself for having an abortion?
  • Did anyone pressure you to have an abortion?
  • Did the baby’s father pressure you to have an abortion?
  • Did your mother or father pressure you to have an abortion?
  • Were they ashamed that you were pregnant?
  • Did you think the abortion would solve your problems?
  • Did anyone ever tell you that you might have regrets about having an abortion?
  • Did people remind you that it was “your right to choose” to have an abortion?
  • Did your contraception fail?
  • If so, did you feel cheated and misled?
  • Do you feel that your situation as a Post-Abortive Woman is socially invisible?

This section of the questionnaire is for men. Women, you may wish to read these questions with the man in your life in mind.

  • Are you the father of any aborted children?
  • Was the mother using contraception when she got pregnant?
  • Did you feel cheated that the contraception failed?
  • Do you suspect or know that she really wanted the baby, and was not really using contraception?
  • Did you feel deceived about her true feelings about getting pregnant?
  • Did your sense of feeling deceived help you justify having an abortion?
  • Did you pressure the mother of your child to have an abortion?
  • Were you afraid of becoming a father?
  • Did you think you were not ready or not worthy to be a father?
  • Do your reasons for wanting an abortion seem shallow or thin to you now?
  • Did you try to convince the mother of your child to have the baby?
  • Did you feel angry that she chose to abort your baby?
  • Did you wish you could have had a life together with the mother of your child?
  • Did you feel angry that she had a “right to choose” but that you had no such right?
  • Did you experience conflict with the members of her family or your family over whether to keep the baby or have an abortion?
  • Do you feel that your situation as a Post-Abortive Man is socially invisible?

(This page helps complete Step 1We honestly Face and Embrace the Impact of the Sexual Revolution on our lives. If you are not familiar with the “7 Steps to Sexual Peace,” go here.)

Related Resources

If you are a Post-Abortive Woman or Man, you may benefit from these resources created or compiled by the Ruth Institute.

We are adding to our library of resources all the time. If you know of an organization that provides assistance to the Post-Abortive Woman or Man, please share that information with us. Click here to submit a link. Or submit an article, podcast or video with helpful information for those struggling with past abortions.

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