What to Ask when you’re Seriously Dating

Discussion Questions:

  1. Are tips 36-41 wise questions to ask? Can you think of any others that should be asked?
  2. Is it fair or acceptable to consider the other person a fixer-upper or a work-in-progress? Do you think a person can change or be changed? Would you want to change? (Tips 42-43)
  3. Often couples where one is an introvert and the other an extrovert work well. Have you observed this? Which do you think is more important: being a good listener or a good talker? (Tip 47)
  4. Have you observed couples who fight a lot? How does it make you feel to witness them? Do you think they still have the skills to make it work? Do you think frequent arguing is a sign of strength or weakness in a relationship? (Tip 50)
  5. Review tips 52-54. How would you feel if your significant other was like this? How would you handle it?
  6. Review tips 57 and 58. Do you agree that these are serious issues to consider? If you were (or are) dating someone like this, how important is it to discuss these issues with him or her?
  7. How big of a deal is porn? (Tip 63)

Personal Reflection

  1. Can I answer yes to the questions in tips 36-41 if I’m in a serious relationship? If not, why not? Is more work needed on my relationship, or is it time to call it quits?
  2. Are there any nagging feelings about this person or our relationship that I’ve been ignoring or rationalizing away?
  3. Am I a better talker or listener? Can I be the other when the situation requires it? Is this something I need to work on?
  4. Review tips 52-54. Am I dating someone like this? Am I like this? What can I do to improve the situation?
  5. Am I using porn? If so, should I be? Can I stop whenever I want to? Have I tried?
Session 3