Asking for help can be difficult for many of us. It can make us feel vulnerable and also make us feel as though we are a burden.
This isn’t true.
Today, I want to gently remind you that it is absolutely OK to ask for help.
In a chapter on strength in my book, Glimmers of Grace, I talk about how asking for help is actually a sign of strength. It is not a weakness. “There is no shame in relying on others or admitting you can’t do it all. Did not God create us to be social beings? Are we not all one in the Body of Christ?”
Asking for help can be humbling. However, contrary to what popular culture may try to feed us at times, we cannot “do it all” especially by ourselves. It really is OK to lean on others, to ask for support when we need it, to ask for help, and to take a break. This is healthy! This is part of practicing good self-care.
In the same chapter on strength, I talk about how it is important to be able to admit when we are feeling weak, to go when we are able to go, and stop when we need to stop. Believe it or not, it takes strength to admit you need help, to admit you can’t do it all alone, and even to admit you’re having a rotten moment or a rotten day.
Everyone needs help at some point and in some way. Ask your support system for help. If you are a person of faith, don’t forget to ask God for help. Trust in his abilities. Trust that he can perform miracles. There is no one we can trust more than God!
This week I encourage you to realize that you have limitations. We ALL do. There is no shame in admitting that you need some help at times.
It’s OK to ask for help and it’s OK to receive it.
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