A book review from TampaMeditations.com on 12/21/2016
you can start to change your own marriage today, simply by making a decision to be more generous: by being the first to forgive; by making allowances;
by admitting you were wrong. These are an antidote to self-righteousness, the belief that “it’s not my fault”. There are other strategies, such
as never using phrases such as “You always” or “You never” in disputes; being prepared to give way on unimportant issues; persevering in keeping
the peace whenever possible.
Read this review by Mary Ann Paulukonis at For Your Marriage.
Go out and get this book, “101 Tips for a Happier Marriage”, written by Jennifer Roback Morse and Betsy Kerekes. It is full of sage advice that would
have been obvious to previous generations but, like the art of home cooking, seems to have fallen by the wayside in modern society.
Notice that the authors put God before “each other” in the subtitle. The book’s emphasis is on what the person who reads it can do to make a difference
for the marital relationship. Growing closer to God will inevitably follow. If we tend to the ways in which God calls us, we will grow closer to
Him. Once we’ve said our marriage vows and entered the sacrament of marriage, we can be pretty sure that God is telling us to work on our commitments.
Do not buy this book to change your spouse. Do not give it to your spouse to work on. The tips are effective only when applied to oneself. If you change,
your marriage will change. This book is also not for anyone dealing with domestic violence or addictions of any kind. It cannot replace specialized
professional assistance.
