A new article in the Journal of Family Studies looks at over 2,000 individuals in their first marriages and assesses the impact of delaying sex on the quality of their relationship.
Individuals were categorized as either having:
• Early sex (before dating or less than one month after they started dating).
• Late sex (between one month and two years of dating).
• And those who waited until after they married.Relationships fared better and better the longer a person waited to have sex, up until marriage, with those hitting the sack before a month showing the worst outcomes.
Compared with those in the early sex group, those who waited until marriage:
• Rated relationship stability as 22 percent higher
• Rated relationship satisfaction as 20 percent higher
• Rated sexual quality as 15 percent better
• Rated communication as 12 percent better
The researcher noted that 40% of respondants are sexual within the first two times they go out, yet,
we suspect that if you asked these same couples at this early stage of their relationship – ‘Do you trust this person to watch your pet for a weekend many could not answer this in the affirmative’ – meaning they are more comfortable letting people into their bodies than they are with them watching their cat,”
Young people are beginning to figure this out for themselves. That explains the success of the Love and Fidelity Network and the Ruth Institute.
I wonder if the advocates of same sex marriage are reporting results like these to youth with same sex attraction. After all, these advocates are always assuming that marriage will be precisely the same for same sex couples as for opposite sex couples. it stands to reason that if man woman couples benefit from delaying sex, man man or woman woman couples should benefit as well. I wonder….
