One only has to look through a few comments on websites, Left or Right, to see that the lesbian lawsuit for breach of warranty and wrongful birth over
a mixed race baby has struck a very negative chord. Decent people, Right and Left, feel all wrong about a mother suing the sperm bank because
she didn’t get the child she ordered. I certainly agree that it is all wrong. I just want to put the blame squarely where it belongs. Not on
the sperm bank for “medical malpractice.” Not on the lesbian mother for saying, “I’m not going to let them get away with not being held accountable.”
No, I place the blame on the Elites who have imagined, sustained and defended the Sexual Revolutionary ideology. This ideology is indefensible, unsustainable
and is causing unimaginable misery. The mother, Jennifer Cramblett, is just the latest in a long string of ordinary people who have built their lives
around lies. Fantasy ideologies may look good on paper or in a legal brief. But when a real person tries to build her life around ideas that are untrue,
that real person can run into real problems. Ms. Cramblett is not a celebrity lesbian. She does not have a law degree or work for a prestigious
activist organization or have a TV show. She works at an ATT store. I do not see any of the Establishment Gay Legal organizations hovering around her
case. (I’m guessing they
would find her case slightly embarrassing to their liberal pieties.)
Her attorney, Thomas Intili,
seems to be a local personal injury lawyer. No, Ms.
Cramblett and her friend Amanda Zinkon appear to be just folks. Ms. Cramblett was trying to order her life around the Modern Family Narrative. When
the Elites said that “love makes a family,” she believed them. “Genetic connections are over-rated.” “Kids don’t really need mothers and
fathers.” “No harm will come from using a commercial sperm donor.” “You are entitled to become a mother, even if you never intend to have a relationship
with the child’s father.” “Your child will not care that you paid money for her.” “There is nothing particularly sacred or special about a man
and a woman creating a child together through an act of loving sexual intercourse.” And behind all these official storylines, was one further, unstated
assumption: as long as you are a nice person who means well, the structure of your family does not matter to your child. Your love will be enough to
conquer any problems you encounter. Armed with these bromides, she plunged into an untested social experiment. She chose a life partner with whom she
would never be able to reproduce. Together, they decided that they would find a way to share parenting. They looked through a sperm donor catalogue
together, as if choosing a father for one’s child is the same as a bride choosing her china pattern. Even while they perused the catalogue, genetics
mattered to them: they wanted to choose a donor that would create a child who would resemble Amanda, the “social mother.” They couldn’t really
sustain the lie that “genetics is overrated.” They were trying desperately to mimic a natural, genetic family. They allowed themselves to believe
that there was no real significance to treating a child’s father as a commodity that they purchased. After all, haven’t legions of law professors,
TV talk show hosts, celebrities and judges assured them that this must be so? So when something did go wrong, as commercial transactions sometimes
do, what choice did she have? She continued with a process appropriate to a commercial transaction: a lawsuit. Breach of warranty and wrongful birth.
These are words that should never be applied to any human person. No child should ever have to hear or think such words. But hey: the Elites don’t
notice or care about ordinary people living ordinary lives. As long as they can recreate the world in their own image, they can feel good about themselves.
Thankfully, Ms. Cramblett and Ms. Zinkon love the child. They are not trying to return her for a refund. She said:
‘I am happy that I have a healthy child. We love her more… to this day, she’s made us the people that we are. Never trade it for the world,’ she said,
her eyes welling with tears.
I do not know if they will get the “justice” they seek: $50,000 in damages and the satisfaction that the sperm bank will not “do this to another family.”
I do hope this incident will alert them to the fact that they were mistaken in embracing the ideas that allowed them to embark on this experiment in
the first place. Children are not objects to be purchased. Children are full human beings. Conceiving children using third party reproduction
is an affront to the dignity of the child, who after all, will one day become a full-fledged adult, with thoughts and feelings of her own. I hope that
some good Christian people will reach out to these women and help them see through the lies we have all been fed. The Sexual Revolution has claimed
many Victims over the past generation. People who believed lies like, “kids are resilient: it is ok if we divorce,” and “no one ever gets jealous over
sexual infidelity: it is ok if I have an affair.” It is time for some of today’s Victims to become Survivors and to reach out to tell the truth and
help others learn the truth. And I hope these women will allow themselves to be changed by the love they have for this child. She appears to be a cute
little darling. They have been blessed and graced by receiving a gift from God, a gift that was not what or who they expected. I hope and pray
they will allow themselves to be transformed, and place the highest priority on their love for her. I hope they will see through the lies they built
their lives around. ~~~ If this article breaks your heart, I am glad for that. I have written a companion piece, a satire,which
might make you laugh. Whether you get it through laughter or through tears, I just hope you can come to see the truth: there is no regulation
of the sperm bank industry that truly does justice to all parties. The sperm bank industry should be abolished, not regulated.
Jennifer Roback Morse, Ph.D. is Founder and President of the Ruth Institute, which Inspires the Survivors of the Sexual Revolution. If you enjoyed this article, consider becoming a monthly supporter of the Ruth Institute. This article was published on the Christian Post on October 9, 2014.
