This story is SOOO interesting for SOOO many reasons.
1. Dr Sax shows that sexual orientation is different for women than for men, disturbing the common theory that sex differences are completely socially constructed, and that men and women are completely interchangeable.
2. Dr. Sax shows that sexual orientation is much more fluid for women than for men, disturbing the common theory (which is morphing into a legal doctrine) that sexual orientation is an immutable characteristic, comparable to race. At best, this might be true for men, but is almost certainly not true for women.
3. Dr. Sax shows that the sexual orienation of women can be shaped by the experiences they have, not entirely by genetics or other in-born factors.
4. Dr. Sax shows that some women at least are choosing other women as sex partners because the men they know are such losers.
5. Dr. Sax shows that men who consume a steady diet of pornography are not suitable sex partners for real women, as we have discussed on this page before.
6. Dr. Sax shows that there are men who actively prefer computer pornography to real women, and are not embarrassed by it, and who are not particularly claiming that the women they know are somehow to blame, and finally,
7. The one character in this category whom he cites is a combination control freak and narcissist. OK: Draw your own conclusion from this quotation:
John Mayer’s current preference for pornography over sex with real women wasn’t well-known until his interview with Rolling Stone (February 4 2010) and his March 2010 interview with Playboy magazine, in which he also explained why he now prefers porn over sex with actual women: because masturbation allows him to be in complete control. He said: “As soon as I lose that control, once I have to deal with someone else’s desires, I cut and run . . . I’m more comfortable in my imagination than I am in actual human discovery.”